Susanne Grant from Grant Method of Birthing specialises in (Birth) Trauma, PTSD and Body Issues. She has been working all around the world helping women prepare for their birth using the KG Hypnobirthing and runs a “Heal Your Birth” programme for those to help them heal their own birth, or the birth with their little one.She works with clients in and around Aberdeen and shire, and online.
These are Susanne’s top tips for an empowering birth experience:
Tip1) Look into the way you were born
The way we are born into this world can have a long lasting effect on how we experience life and on our believe system. For example, my own birth was a traumatic forceps delivery and my umbilical cord was so tightly around my neck I couldn’t move down. My birth had a deadline, because my sister was a c-section, so I had until the next day to be born. Throughout my life I felt petrified when I was put under time pressure, at university this meant I couldn’t pass most of my exams because of performance anxiety and I needed to re-do many exams. Yet, if there was no time limit, I was absolutely fine. Besides this constant time trigger, I was never able to wear anything around my neck because it would freak me out – for some reason it made me feel unsafe. Time after time my birth was triggered in different situations without realising it, until I did the work to release it.
Tip 2) Hypnobirthing isn’t an easy trick; it is a life style choice
Embracing the possibility to be able to achieve a positive birth experience is a life changing process. To change your mindset is a daily task where you need to put yourself first; today, tomorrow and everyday to come. Fighting for your dreams isn’t selfish but it does require commitment. If you are not willing to fight for what you want, who will?
Tip 3) Don’t give your power away
I believe your partner holds great power in the way you are going to experience the birth and most of them do underestimate the amazing and positive role they can play! I think any birth worker, like myself, will agree with me on this. We have heard it all before when women come to us for support:
“I am thinking of doing a birth preparation course...”
“I want a home birth, because that’s where I feel safe...”
“I want to hire a doula...”
But my partner doesn’t think it is necessary. Or my partner thinks it is too expensive. Or he believes my birth shouldn't be where I want it to be as he thinks it's not safe.
You wouldn’t believe it, if I told you how many times women told me this in just one year! The way a woman gives birth is an experience that will stay with her for the rest of her life. Make sure it is a memory you want to remember! I really believe most of the negative experiences during birth can be avoided with the right preparation and the right support. Whatever this means to your family! Don’t give your power away, but work together to achieve what you want.
Tip 4) Surround yourself with people that want you to succeed!
Having the right support can make or break your birth experience. But what is right for you as a woman? It may be completely differ from my view which is absolutely fine! Trust me, normality comes in many different shape and forms these days. But where do you find positive support? A good place to start may be the Positive Birth Movement, which is a global movement hosting free antenatal classes all around the world. For more information and to find your local group, visit the website [http://www.positivebirthmovement.org/]. Together with hypnobirthing Doula Satu I run the group in Aberdeen and Shire, Scotland, and we have a range of freely available resources available in our group and the website [http://bit.ly/2bEK9DQ] to help you achieve your own positive birth experience.
To find out more about Susanne’s Hypnobirthing Course and support for releasing negative believes around past births and future births, please visit her website. [www.grantmethod.com]